In my opinion, the real issue is that no one is really in the lobby anymore. (any time I'm on at least) When I first started on TS and throughout my staffing years, people were always in the lobby, there was upwards of 15 people in there at any given time with a group discussion. We had other rooms sure, however, people wanted to be with the crowd and have a conversation with everybody. Now, we have people scattered over many different channels such as convo rooms, the league of dungeons room, etc. The community is not as close knit as it was a year ago say. (TS wise) Everybody has their own cliques and stays with them in a certain room, sort of like a private school in California full of rich kids and I myself have been guilty of doing this.
No one is to blame, I think its just how the community evolved. When I first started, it was only one real game and we know what that is. Now we have a lot more servers, others games and a lot larger player base. This is just my two cents and maybe I got a little off topic but, hit me.